Thursday, October 30, 2014

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Monday, May 19, 2014

Handling Criticism and Rejection

There are two things you can say about criticism: 1.) It hurts. 2.) It happens — it’s part of life. True, you can’t stop criticism from happening. But you most certainly can stop it from hurting. Read on and learn how.


Why is it that when someone criticizes or rejects our music it hits us so hard? Hearing someone say “I don’t like the song you wrote” or “You guys aren’t that good” hurts more deeply than, say, if a business executive criticizes a subordinate for writing a bad report. That’s understandable. Musicians, along with other artists, tend to be more intimately connected with our craft than any office worker I’ve ever met. When someone criticizes our music they’re not only finding fault with our work but our passion as well, our life. Music isn’t simply what we do, it is who we are. Many of us have spent nearly our entire lives in music. We have so much of ourselves invested in our craft it’s no wonder even well-intentioned criticism from our peers hurts so much.

I will not brush this issue aside by simply telling you to “toughen up,” or that “criticism is something we all must face, so you might as well get used to it.” Somehow those words don’t seem to help. I know a few colleagues who, in the spirit of being “tough,” will wear a mask of nonchalance when someone puts them down. And all the while the stinging words eat them up on the inside instead of the outside. That’s even worse.

What does help is to remind ourselves that music is one of those things that, when someone says they don’t like how or what we’re playing, are really saying they don’t have a taste for it. It’s like if I told you I don’t like the pepperoni pizza you made, it’s probably because I don’t like pepperoni pizza, period. I’m rejecting the pepperoni, not your talent as a cook, and certainly not your worth as a human being. 

Everybody likes something different on their pizza!

And everybody likes something different in their music. Before feeling scathed by someone’s attack on your music remember this: There are millions of people who don’t like The Beatles, millions more who think Beethoven is boring, and even more who have absolutely no use for John Coltrane. Think about that. Three of the most renowned names in music, ignored, criticized, even condemned by millions and millions of people. As with the greats, there are simply going to be people who don’t have a taste for your music either. The same goes for every single musician on the face of the earth. 

If an artist has a gold record in the U.S. (500,000 copies sold) it means that fewer than one person in six hundred cared enough about that artist’s music to actually buy it. Fewer than one in six hundred. Even a platinum album (1 million copies sold) equals less than one out of three hundred people buying it — and that’s in the U.S. alone! Keep that in mind the next time someone rejects the fruits of your talent.

Speaking of The Beatles, I once had a teacher, a jazz pianist, who referred to the legendary group as “four guys with no talent and a lot of luck.” Now there’s criticism! The man is entitled to his opinion, but I have a feeling his comment was more the result of an overall preference for jazz over rock (and maybe just a hint of jealousy). Perhaps “The Fab Four” was simply not his cup of tea.

Finally, it may help to remember that unsolicited criticism of others is borne of one’s insecurities (except if it comes from your teacher!). Remember that the next time you find yourself on the receiving end, or the giving end, of a good put-down.

© 2005 by Stan Munslow.  All rights reserved.

“Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing."

Aristotle


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Wednesday, May 7, 2014

VISUALIZE YOUR WAY TO A GREAT PERFORMANCE

You may not think so, but you practice visualization all the time — imagining how your next performance is going to turn out.  Problem is, those imagined shows don’t always turn out very well ... then, neither do the real shows that follow.  Read on and learn how to make visualization work for you instead of against you — just like millions of greats do every day.  Enjoy!


Picture this: You’re onstage at your next performance. You’re calm and relaxed, your music is well prepared, and the crowd waits expectantly. Then, you start to play. The adrenaline sweeps through your body. You experience the thrill of the moment, the rush of creative energy, and the excitement of being able to express yourself in the same way your heroes do.

The performance goes beautifully, as you expected it would. You play your best and the audience is appreciative and responsive. The show moves from song to song, getting better and better, each tune working off the success of the last. You end with a bang and the crowd loves it.

You’ve just practiced one of the most valuable skills in “performance” history: Visualization. Visualization is the process of imagining, over and over, a desired outcome. It is mentally rehearsing success. You’ll notice that the word performance is in quotation marks. This is to show that the term is being used loosely. People in many fields routinely visualize a successful outcome for themselves. Musicians, actors, athletes, even doctors, lawyers, speech-makers, and many other specialists take a few minutes each day to sit down, close their eyes and visualize a successful outcome to their next “performance,” whether that be a jazz gig, a basketball game, or open-heart surgery.

Why is this such a widespread practice? Because it works. It works wonders. When you imagine, over and over, that your next performance is going to go splendidly (to the best of your current level of ability) you’re preparing your mind, drilling it, to become accustomed to success. Then, when you’re actually in that performance, the mind helps you to perform your music in the way it has become most familiar: Brilliantly.

This is the exact opposite of what many musicians do. Days before an upcoming performance they start to get nervous. Then the negative talk comes. “What if something goes wrong? What if I lose my place? What if people don’t like me or my music? Oh, gosh, I’m not ready for this! It’s going to be a flop like last time!”

And then their fears become a self-fulfilling prophesy. They’ve mentally and emotionally prepared themselves for failure and it is this mode of thinking that the brain operates in when they perform. They don’t want to fail, of course. And they may even try very hard not to. But it’s likely too late. Failure is what they’ve programmed themselves, albeit subconsciously, to do. So failure is what they are very likely to get.

Visualization is a process. Just by saying “I’m going to play well tonight” is not enough. As with any acquired skill, great results can only be expected when visualization is done every day. Better yet, two or three times a day, for five minutes each. And don’t just imagine yourself giving a decent performance — imagine a great one!

Imagine it with as many vivid details as you can. What does the place look like? How do you sound? How does the crowd react? Involve your senses: see yourself and the crowd, hear your music and their applause, feel the adrenaline pumping through your body, smell the food and drink, taste it. Make the image as real as you can. Do this every day.

Your mind, body, and spirit will take it from there.


“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build."
Robert Collier

Monday, April 28, 2014

THE "PASSION" THING

Do you want to be a good, even great musician?  Well, do you want it bad enough?  Read on about this “passion” thing that, more often than not, is really what separates the Bach’s and the Beck’s from the ... Yach’s and the Yeck’s.  Enjoy!


Many of us are fortunate to have someone in our lives to teach us how to do — whatever we do — with passion. For me, this person was my grandfather. An engraver by profession, a gardener and fisherman by hobby, Grandpa Joe performed these and other roles with as much fire, energy, and joy as a man possibly could. Even the stories he used to tell me of old fishing adventures were told and retold with as much passion as with which they were lived.

This is an interesting way of living for an old man to have. Passion is usually what we experience as children when, for example, we take up music because we really want to play, and not because we want to earn money or impress others. My grandfather’s life taught me that it is possible to keep on doing what we love for our entire lifetime because, above all else, we love it.

I’ve had my share of working with musicians who simply play — with about as much enthusiasm as a mill worker — satisfied that their music is correct and nothing more. “The thrill is gone,” their faces say. “I’ve been doing this too long ... just give me my check and let me go home.” To them, music has become drudgery — a chore and nothing more — because they let it.

I’m also privileged to have played beside musicians who just ooze passion. It’s on their faces and in their notes. They move their audience and they inspire their colleagues with genuine, infectious enthusiasm. Even in rehearsal and in their own practice the passion is there. They play with the joy of a child and with the artistry of someone who truly loves what they do.

Passion is a great thing to bring to a performance for the benefit of everyone in the room. But don’t let it stop there. Even the most uninspiring warm-up exercises will sound better when you’re fully into them and not just doing them because you think you should. Don’t wait for inspiration to come your way courtesy of your favorite songs. Inspire yourself. Then, even warm ups will become a joy to play. And you’ll play them better than ever.

Getting “into it” may not always be easy but it beats being bored.

Playing our music with passion serves one other purpose besides enriching the lives of those who hear it and improving how well we play it in the first place. It is the means by which we get through the difficult days of our musical lives. When you’re hit with a slump, which all musicians are from time to time (see Chapter 87: Slumps Happen), hurtful criticism, or any other obstacle, it is this “passion thing” that will get you through to the other side. No other form of motivation — money, discipline, fame, or whatever — is likely to keep you going when things are at their worst.

Do it for all these reasons. Play with passion for your technique, your fulfillment, your joy, and for the joy of your audience. And do it for your grandkids, for the day when they ask you for stories.

“If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.”
T. Alan Armstrong

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Tuesday, April 22, 2014

TOUGH LOVE

Greetings, music-dudes & music-dudettes! From my experience as an educator, I’ve come to understand that some people simply respond better to a more “hardline” approach when it comes to whipping their self-confidence into shape. So, for any readers who may have been hoping for something comparable from me, I offer you this drill-sergeant approach to beating performer’s anxiety and stage-jitters. Enjoy!


All right! So, you’re afraid to go up there, are you? Afraid of those big, mean audience members? Afraid they might boo or yawn at you?

Aw, ain’t that too bad! Did it ever occur to you that maybe they have every right to boo? If your music is so poorly prepared that booing is the only appropriate response, maybe your audience isn’t being mean at all. Maybe they’re being honest. Maybe booing is their way of saying that you should have practiced more, instead of watching “Seinfeld” reruns or cruising the mall.

Maybe they feel you should have cared a little more about your music. And them.

But, hey, if you are prepared, you have absolutely nothing to be afraid of! Audiences don’t walk out on or shun musicians who are well-prepared.

Quit whining about how tough it is to go out there and play in front of a few fellow human beings. You’re not storming the beaches at Normandy. You’re not undergoing open-heart surgery. You’re playing music, that’s all. Your life is not on the line. Even if your last performance did turn out to be the worst thing since that all redhead punk group you saw at your school talent show last spring, whoopee. Feel bad for a day and do a better job next time.

In any case, stop being such a wimp! You have a job to do? Then you go out there and do your job. You have an audience that wants to hear some tunes? Start thinking of them instead of your own fears and anxieties.

Stop thinking of yourself!

Okay, fine, you’re a performer. And performers are prone to being just a tad self-absorbed. Save it for Grammy night. As for right now, you craft that music the best you can, be a big boy or girl, and just go out there and share it with your audience. They come first. They deserve to hear you play, and not to have to watch you drowning in your own sweat or shuddering like a misaligned front wheel.

You owe them your best. Give it to them.

And when you’re done thinking about your audience, think about the others who deserve your attention more than yourself:

1. Your fellow musicians. They worked hard, too. They deserve to have you deliver the goods with them. Don’t you dare make them look bad. Be ready.

2. Your music. Think about it a lot. Get into it. Never mind your miserable stage fright.

3. Your family. Did they have to put up with listening to you rehearse the same tunes for weeks on end? If so, you owe them, pal. Big time. Think of them for a change.

4. Me. That’s right. The guy who wrote this article for you and who feels pretty darned out-of-character doing it. You owe me by getting your act together pronto.

You get what I’m saying here? You get your mind off yourself or your jitters and onto your music. You craft it to the 110% best of your ability. You shake off those self-manufactured shakes, go out there the big person, and do your job. That’s the bottom line. Do - your - job. That’s all you need to think about.

Frankly, you don’t have time to be thinking about the possibility of a few un-earth-shattering slip-ups or how awful you might feel afterwards. That’s trivia.

Music. Audience. That’s where you direct your thoughts. Your music, your audience. They matter immensely, a whole lot more than your own worries, woes, shivers, shakes, quivers, and quakes.

That is all. You’re dismissed. Now go practice!

Zig Ziglar

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

IF YOU CAN'T PLAY IT RIGHT YET ...

Welcome Music Makers!  Here’s a piece on the subject of patience ... a quality that can literally make or break your success as a musician, depending on whether you exude it or not.  Enjoy!

You’ve tried, you’ve really tried to play it right, but it’s just not happening. Your first reaction is to blame yourself; your lack of experience or your lack of talent. That’s not a good habit to have if you are trying to maintain any degree of confidence in yourself or your ability! Furthermore, knocking yourself down is not going to help you learn the part any better.

That’s a lose-lose situation; you feel bad and you still can’t play it right yet. The worst part is that it’s not even your lack of experience or talent that’s causing all this in the first place. It’s your lack of patience.

If you can’t play it right it means you haven’t played it enough times yet.That’s it. You simply have not played it enough times yet.

This may sound obvious, but it is a notoriously overlooked truth. There is a specific number of times that a musician must play something before it is mastered. 
Of course, no one can tell you what that number is. It will be different for every musician and situation. But you will know when you get there because it will be right! If you’ve played it twenty-five times and it’s still wrong, maybe the number is thirty, or thirty-five, or forty. Keep going. You’ll find it.

Some passages may be so difficult that the number will be very high. That’s not unusual. In fact, it’s fairly common for even the best players to repeat a single passage hundreds of times, sometimes over a period of days, before they get it. Great musicians are notoriously tenacious; they don’t give up on something until it’s finished no matter how long it takes.

Just think how empowering it is to know that your success with a piece of music really is in your hands. It’s not a question of if you can get it. It’s a question of whether or not you can muster the patience to get it.

Of course, I’m not suggesting that you actually count the number of times you play your pieces! You don’t need to know the number, you simply have to keep going until you reach it. It’s like taking a cross-country car trip. You don’t have to know how many miles you need to drive to get from New York to California. You just keep heading west until you see the Welcome To California sign. Then you’ll know you’re there.

Another reason musicians give up on a piece is because they feel they shouldn’t have to play it so many times; that if they do there must be something wrong with them.

Actually, playing something many, many times is not an indication of lack of ability. It is simply how it’s done. In fact, it is how the greats get that way.

The next time you are stumped by a nasty part, don’t blame your lack of talent. Blame your lack of patience. Then ignore it and seek to discover the magic number.



“Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow. That is patience.”
Anonymous




Thursday, April 3, 2014

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EXCUSES, EXCUSES!

Welcome music-maker! Here’s a piece on the single biggest determining factor in your success as a musician: Perseverance. Enjoy!

You’ve heard it a thousand times: Practicing every day is how a musician gets good. But if you’re like most musicians, you’ve probably come up with plenty of excuses for not practicing as much as you should.

- Perhaps you have uninspiring books or an inadequate instrument.

- Maybe you’re “not in the mood.”

- Sometimes you’re too tired. Or you simply forget.

- You think you don’t have enough self-discipline.

- Every so often you may become so discouraged by a tough passage or song that you loose all enthusiasm or confidence to continue. I mean, who enjoys playing songs they’re terrible at?

To these and any other excuses you may have for cheating yourself out of your goals and dreams, let me say this:

Tough.

No excuse is acceptable. Not one. Do not accept a single excuse from yourself. This way, you won’t have to decide which excuses are allowable and which ones are not. It’s simple — none of them are.

You see, the problem with excuses is that, after you allow yourself one, it gets easier and easier to allow yourself another, then another, and still another. It soon becomes a way of life to skip practice; you can always find an excuse if you look hard enough — a good, rational excuse.

And there go your dreams.

Let us not forget that every excuse in the book, every conflict and every obstacle, has been overcome by many musicians facing the same challenges, feeling the same lack of enthusiasm, or experiencing the same “lack” of self-discipline to sit down every day and play. But for them, the very idea of excusing oneself from practice did not exist, or was quickly snuffed out.

Many of us, pros included, play on second-rate instruments. Most of us lack the gift of genius or a perfect set of fingers. And we’ve all been stumped by songs we thought were impossible. How do we overcome these challenges? 

We sit down and play.

Too tired? Not in the mood? Just sit down and play.

Bad day at work? Just sit down and play. Playing music is the ultimate stress reliever!

Don’t even give yourself the time to come up with yet another rationalization to justify the excuse. Start to play before you manage to talk yourself out of it. Just do it.

There is always a way. If you habitually forget, leave sticky-note reminders all over the place. If you need encouragement or a push, ask a family member, friend, or your spouse to help you. Reward yourself every so often for sticking with it. Schedule practice time into your appointment book. If you just can’t seem to muster the energy to practice, at least play some of your old favorites; it’s better than not practicing at all. Just don’t let this last one become a habit or you will never learn anything new.

One of the best ways to stick to a practice schedule is to have a practice schedule. Practice at the same time every daiy. If 7:00 p.m. works for you, then say, “7:00 p.m. is my practice time.” Call it “practice time”; make it official. Very soon it will become an unconscious habit. And not long after you will find yourself scheduling other activities around your practice time rather than vice-versa.

Do whatever it takes to get yourself to sit down and play. You will save yourself a whole future of regret.

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” 
Thomas Edison

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

PRACTICE SESSIONS AND REHEARSALS: 15 ESSENTIAL TIME-SAVERS & SUCCESS BOOSTERS (PART 2)

Whether you're a beginner, aspiring pro, or a card-carrying superstar, save time and boost your success with these simple and very powerful practice and rehearsal super-tips. Each is time-honored and practiced by more successful music-makers than there are notes in a Charlie Parker solo!

9. When practicing, spend no more than seven or eight minutes on the same section. Progress wanes after that. Come back to it later if you need to.

10. There is a specific number of times you must play something before it is mastered. If you can't play it correctly yet, don't criticize yourself. It simply means you haven't reached that number yet. Don't give up.

11. Most musicians go from "fast and wrong" to "fast and right," spending a lot of time correcting mistakes (aka: "learning it over"). Instead, go from "slow and right" to "fast and right," by simply speeding up an already-correct passage.

12. Play with purpose, fire and passion. You'll sound better, play better, and everyone will notice.

13. If you make a mistake, don't get upset and end up making more mistakes. Just say "oops," fix the problem, and get on with it. Be nonchalant about your mistakes and you will make far fewer of them in the long run.

14. There is such a thing as over-practicing. You've over-practiced if you find yourself sanitizing each and every note to the point when the thrill is gone, when the piece offers nothing more than tedium, if stupid mistakes crop up in a piece that was perfect last week. At the very least, give an over-rehearsed song a few days off.

15. Pauses and hesitations are symptoms that we are practicing a piece too fast, too soon. Slow it down, no matter how slow it needs to be, until the pauses are gone. Then, gradually speed it back up.

Put these practice tips into practice and watch your practice really start to make perfect!  

Until next time...
Stay tuned and play great.

Your Whiz-guru
Stan Munslow

“You've got to learn your instrument. Then, you practice, practice, practice. And then, when you finally get up there on the bandstand, forget all that and just wail.” ― Charlie Parker

Monday, March 24, 2014

PRACTICE SESSIONS AND REHEARSALS: 15 ESSENTIAL TIME-SAVERS & SUCCESS BOOSTERS (PART 1)

Whether you're a beginner, aspiring pro, or a card-carrying superstar, save time and boost your success with these simple and very powerful practice and rehearsal super-tips. Each is time-honored and practiced by more successful music-makers than there are notes in a Charlie Parker Solo!

1. Practice at the same time each day. Let it become a habit. Work other commitments around your music.

2. Playing through song after song is not rehearsing; it's playing. Real practice involves hammering away on weak passages or sections until they shine.

3. When all is said and done, learning and mastering songs will do more for your musical ability and success than scales or exercises ever will.

4. Play strong and hard! It will improve your tone, help with speed, eliminate mistakes, and improve your confidence.

5. A cassette or mp3 recorder is one of the best practice aids there is. Record, listen to, and analyze your playing. In time, you will get used to having it on.

6. If you make a mistake while practicing, don't waste time by starting over. Fix the mistake right away. Then go on. You can start over later.

7. Strive for improvement, not perfection. Perfection is over-rated, impossible to obtain, and has no place in the arts.

8. Don't waste time "practicing" what you already know. Focus your efforts on those measures, sections, or pieces you can't play yet.

“Music is your own experience, your own thoughts, your wisdom. If you don’t live it, it won’t come out of your horn. They teach you there’s a boundary line to music. But, man, there’s no boundary line to art.”    -- Charlie “YardBird” Parker

Until next time...
Stay tuned and play great.

Your Whiz-guru
Stan Munslow

Sunday, March 16, 2014

SAY "OOPS" AND GET ON WITH IT

Greetings fellow music makers!  

In this installment, we’ll talk about mistakes, more specifically, our reactions to them.  Over the years I’ve seen musicians’ reactions to their mistakes run the gamut from a complete “who cares?” on up to catastrophic emotional meltdowns.  But most musicians do over-react to their minor slip-ups ... and even announce and cringe over them before they occur. Read on for my take on this subject.  


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- Excerpted from "GETTING GOOD, GETTING GREAT: What the Best Players Know" (c 2012 by Oaklight Publishing - LEARN MORE

I once taught piano to a woman who was, in many ways, an outstanding student: talented, intelligent, hard-working.  At first, she impressed me as someone who had everything going for her.  Then, as the pieces got harder (when mistakes become inevitable) a very different person would emerge.

It would typically go something like this: She would start to play the piece I had assigned her and everything would be fine.  But the instant she struck one wrong note she would let out a gasp that sounded as though someone had just landed a serious punch to her midsection.

"What's wrong?" I asked her the first time it happened, thinking I should call 911.

"Didn't you hear? I made a mistake!"

Then she would continue on, so distressed that her rendition was now "flawed" that the one mistake would snowball into ten more.  Nothing I told her about mistakes being a necessary part of learning ever seemed to help.  In time, I came to realize that, despite all her musical gifts, this woman never, ever seemed to enjoy her music.  She was too busy being fearful for mistakes to come, bitter over those that already had.

True, most musicians do not begrudge their every wrong note to quite this extent.  But many do focus too much of their attention on mistakes and attach too much importance to them. 


Our over-concern robs us of enjoying ourselves when we play, distracts us from appreciating that which we really did play well, and distracts us from playing the rest of the piece as well as we could.

Try this: The next time you play something wrong, just say "oops" and get on with it.  Don't curse, don't hit yourself or chastise yourself.  Don't blame yourself or the poor lighting or some mechanical problem with your instrument.  J ust say "oops," forgive yourself, fix the problem, and forget about it. 

Some may respond, "What? Forget about my mistakes? That sounds like a cop out to me.  How will I ever improve?"

Actually, saying "oops" is the best thing you can do if you want to improve.  For one thing, I did not say we shouldn't address our mistakes.  By all means fix them.  But don't punish yourself for making them.  Furthermore, the more you continue to focus on your human imperfections the more distracted you will become by them, and the more mistakes you will make. 

Instead, just fix and forget.

Playing music is a complex process that calls upon our skill, experience, coordination, knowledge, timing, reading, creativity, and more.  It interconnects our eyes, ears, muscles, breath, brain, and soul.  Distraction, apprehension, regret, and lowered self-confidence over a few mistakes, or even more than a few, are the last things we need.  If you learn to belittle your mistakes to the point of feeling nonchalant about them, you will make far fewer of them - and you will enjoy yourself a whole lot more.

“Without music, life would be a mistake.”
Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

Until next time...
Stay tuned and play great.

Your Whiz-guru
Stan Munslow

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

WATCH YOUR MOUTH!

Greetings, fellow music-makers. 

In today's post we’ll focus on the subject of performance jitters, AKA: “Stage Fright.” Did you know that speaking / performing before others is ranked as the #1 fear in America? So if you’ve ever felt shaky before playing at a recital, audition, school concert, or family gathering ... you are not alone! And you are in very good company, I might add. The Beatles, Barbra Streisand, Carly Simon, Huey Lewis, and Britney Spears know exactly where you’re coming from! Read on.


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- Excerpted from my "Onstage and In-Control: 10 Easy Ways to Clobber Stage Fright." - LEARN MORE

Stage f-f-f-fright!


What a fear-invoking term! It can give a body the j-j-jitters just saying it. It sounds every bit as much like a curse as the name suggests. “Stage fright! Egad! Run!”


But, you know, language is a funny thing. Often the words we use help to create the very reality they describe.


Just imagine the probable outcome in life for a boy named “Fifi”by his parents.Or a girl named “Spike.” Reflect on the future performance of a capable worker labeled “incompetent loser” by his boss.


Yes, names, terms, and labels can easily create their own reality.

The same goes for those feelings we experience before and during a performance. With a name like “stage fright,” who wouldn’t feel afraid?

But what if you didn’t call it that? What if you knew that the feeling we call “fear,” or “fright,” is actually the exact same sensation as that which we call “excitement.” Same sensation, different label.

So, when we say we have stage fright, could it be that we are, in fact, excited about an upcoming performance and are simply mislabeling the feeling?


Furthermore, all feelings are actually forms of energy. Our fright, or excitement, is just that. It is the energy we need to do our best, to excite or inspire our audience, and to execute our music with enthusiasm, precision, and power.


So, when you’re hit with another bout of jitters, knotted stomach, or cold sweats, consider that perhaps you need a new, more positive label than “stage fright,” one that empowers rather than debilitates.


Consider that what you are feeling is perhaps better referred to as:


Performance Readiness Energy

Try saying that right now. Performance readiness energy. Get familiar and comfortable with it. Then consider yourself lucky that you have this energy to help you do a great job. To help you remain excited and on the ready. And consider the alternative: remaining un-energized, unfeeling, un-rearin’-to-go.

This puts a different spin on things, doesn’t it?  It’s hard to remain in the “grip of fear” if we refuse even to acknowledge that fear is what has its grip on us in the first place!


It’s hard to worry that our jitters are going to wreak havoc on our muscle control when we stop calling them jitters and begin to appreciate the fact that our muscles are about ready to burst at the seams with this very necessary rush of energy roaring through them, ready to put an extra spark of “juice” into our music just when we need it most.


“I’m not shaky,” you say.  “I’m pumped!”


Use the power of this more empowering term “performance readiness energy” in order to see your previously unwelcome feelings in a new light. Remember that the words you choose create the reality you experience. So choose wisely!


"I don't get stage-fright, I actually love the energy, I love the spontaneity, I love the adrenaline you get in front of a live audience, it actually really works for me."  -- Brooke Burke

From Stan Munslow's "Learn & Affirm" audio series.P.S.: Want to learn a whole lot more about whipping that "stage-fright?" Check my my unique "Learn & Affirm" audio program "Onstage and In-Control: Ten Easy Ways to Clobber Stage-Fright" available at CD Baby CLICK HERE

For all musicians, vocalists, and performers. This one-hour "learn & affirm program will give you the confidence you need to stay loose and perform your absolute best in front of any audience!

Saturday, March 8, 2014

IT STARTS WITH DESIRE

Heya, music-makers ...

So, you're thinking of joining the ranks of the greats? That's admirable. Very cool, in fact. It's a very common ambition as well. Of course, many musicians who get "the calling" never get there; they never move from intention to reality.

In some cases, they could blame externals: An inadequate musical education, not enough time spent practicing and developing one's craft, not enough talent. But these excuses fall short when you consider the following: 


There are many great musicians who had little, if any, formal training; many have had to work their practice time around other responsibilities; and there is certainly no shortage of greats who started out with serious technical shortcomings and still managed to move many, many people.

Greatness is, indeed, a very broad term. There are so many things for people to be great at, and so many ways to be great at everything, that it seems to be quite the impossible term to define.

I'll get you started by sharing with you one of the very few things nearly all greats have in common. It applies to athletes, scientists, and writers. It also applies to chefs, police officers, and interior designers. And it certainly applies to musicians.

Greatness starts with desire. It doesn't matter what field you're talking about -- or what kind of musician -- greats have one unifying quality that sets them apart from the mediocre. They are filled with desire.

These people want to do what they do so bad it hurts. They don't just hope for it, they want it. They want it more than anything else. They can't picture themselves doing anything else. Great musicians want nothing more than to play. Many of them may have had a job unrelated to music, but that was just to pay bills. Music is why they are here. It's their purpose; their life's work.

Many of them may, for various reasons, never go on to find fame and fortune. Greatness has nothing to do with that. I've heard musicians who are true masters of music playing in clubs, leading church choirs, singing and playing for their sixth-grade class, even simply playing for occasional friends or family members. They're monsters on their instrument. And desire is what got them there. It's what made them practice and study and persevere.

That's the great thing about desire: It takes care of so many problems and obstacles. When you have the desire to be a great musician, nothing stands in your way. Desire propels you beyond whatever technical limitations you might have. It may take years, but desire gets you there. The desire to play helps you handle the pain of criticism, as well as to establish music as a priority in your life so that other less important distractions can be moved out of the way. It helps you to be more patient with yourself and your progress, to endure temporary setbacks, and to work around whatever weaknesses in your ability you can't overcome.

Desire empowers you to become great. It is like a magic pill that helps to give you whatever you need, be it energy, ability, knowledge, courage, or anything else that will make you the absolute best player you can be!

Until next time...
Stay tuned and play great.

Your Whiz-guru
Stan Munslow

WELCOME AND GREETINGS!


Greetings, musicians of the world! 

Welcome to my brand-new blog: 

SOUND BITES
Life-Smarts ... Musician's Style

I describe it as "a weekly chorus of tips, practice savvy, pro secrets, and success strategies for all musicians who want to become the very best they can be."

Here, I'll show you what great musicians know:
  • Their practice secrets
  • Their inside knowledge
  • Their success strategies
I'll show you what great musicians have:
  • Their passion
  • Their wisdom
  • Their ability to move an audience
I'll teach you all that I know about persistence, confidence, and the "winner's attitude" you need to achieve your musical goals. And I will share with you the "tricks of the trade" of being a better musician so that you won't have to spend years learning them the hard way.

I am not going to show you how to play music; there are plenty of books, blogs, and other resources for that. I'm going to show you how to play music better -- a lot better.

And you can teach me something too. If there are topics you would like me to cover in future posts or questions you want answered, don't hesitate for a second to let me know!  I will do my best to make this blog as helpful as I can.

Finally, as an author I've written several books on the subject of being a great musician. I hope that you will check them out on my books page and add some valuable information to your success library!

Stay tuned and play great!

Your Whiz-guru,
Stan Munslow